Parents are humans, just like every one of us. There are imperfect beings who roam throughout their lives trying to improve and be better, not just for themselves but for their children too. Each lesson we were taught was a cautionary tale of our parent’s experiences. Here are 10 things I learned from my parents.
- Never give up
Even as an adult, I get reminded, by my parents, to never give up. A short and clichéd phrase but extremely quintessential. In the midst of our busy lives, we are constantly rushing to make our deadlines. And as we rush, we lose sight in our progress and our end goal. We focus on how much is left to be done or achieved that we dismiss how much has already been done. From there, it becomes easy to lose hope and to give up. But the greatest journeys have the greatest obstacles. We owe it to yourselves to have a great journey, and that starts with never giving up.
- Never lose faith and trust in Allah (s.w.t)
With any misfortune, we feel vulnerable, helpless and demotivated. We focus on these emotions. And although we are entitled to all the emotions that we feel, we must never lose faith and trust in Allah (s.w.t). “Allah does not burden a soul beyond it can bear.” [The Holy Quran (2:286)]. My parents always taught me that Allah (s.w.t) loves people who are patient and people who trust Him. Everything that happens, happens for a reason. And although we are unaware of these reasons, Allah (s.w.t) is All-Knowing and the Most Wise.
- "Tough times never last, but tough people do.” - R.H Schuller
My father’s favorite quote. Logically, it makes a lot of sense. Tough times are merely a fragment of our lives. And although they seem to last for an eternity, they never truly last an eternity and what is still left standing, among the rubbles of our tough times, are us. We were tough enough to outlast the struggle and get through. And our strength is invaluable. My father never allowed me to forget that I was strong and that I could make it through.
- Focus on your priorities
My parents always told me to focus on what was currently in my life. They said focusing on things that have not happened yet, will just cause unnecessary stress and they asked: why would I choose to torture myself like that? They were right. I don’t know what Allah (s.w.t) has planned, and trying to control what happens in my future is partially futile. Therefore, why not just devote my energy and efforts to current priorities and cross the next bridge when it comes time.
- Treat others with kindness and respect
My parents believed that how you treat others is a reflection of who you are. Regardless of who that person is, they always taught me to smile, gently nod, be friendly, provoke conversation if appropriate and be respectful at all times. It is not hard to be kind. And when that kindness spreads, it becomes a domino effect where everyone reaps from the benefits.
- Be reminded of your blessings
As mere mortals, we are hopeless in comparison to the greatness of Allah (s.w.t) and His power. The gifts that we get on a daily basis, are nothing to be taken granted of. The ability to breathe on our own, the chance to gain experiences, the possibility of being a doctor or any occupations are all blessings that we never truly consider. Every day is a blessing and we must live it to our best potential.
- Pray 5 times a day
My parents are very religious. Although they never imposed or forced anything onto us [my siblings and I], they always advised us on prayers. Pray 5 times a day, it will give you the strength and patience you require to get through. Different people have different ways of coping with life’s struggles. But for me, prayer makes me feel at peace and it soothes my worries.
- Be patient
Patience is hard. I, myself, am very impatient. With that knowledge, my parents made an effort to always tell me to be patient: be patient for the food to cool, be patient for my results, be patient for Allah’s plans. Patience is a virtue. We, as humans, like to be in control of everything, but we rarely are. Life is all about how we react to the things we cannot control. Life will find a way to come back full circle because “Indeed, Allah is with the patient” [The Holy Quran (2:153)].
- Knowledge is power
My parents taught me to fight with my mind, not my fists. My mind will always be superior. Knowledge is one of the things that we can always carry with us. Our mind was made to teach, to learn, to adapt and to grow. Knowledge is what will take me far in this world because ignorance will most definitely not.
- Trust yourself
My parents never failed to remind me how important it was for me, to trust myself and to trust my decisions. There are a lot of external voices and opinions we hear from all angles, but the only one that truly matters are our very own. My own voice and opinion should be the most important. And just like that, I should be able to trust that I know what would be the best decision for me. And if I fail, I know to learn from it and not make the same mistakes.
Fatin Najwa binti Daud, is a medical student studying at IMU Malaysia. She is a freelance writer of this blog at Zaahara. Interests include music, art, sports and travel.
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